California Men's Gatherings presents . . .
May 1, 2018                                                 Volume 11, Issue 5

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Four New Support/Social Groups (Orange County)
Southern California guys: Looking for a support/social group? Announcing four new in-person groups with events currently in Orange County, online support forum, and more!  Shirt-Free support:  Body shyness support:  Foreskin Restoration workshops & support:  Circle Jerks: There's no membership fees in any of these, but a $1 or $2 door fee is requested (though no one is turned away for lack of funds).     4/24/18

CMG Marketplace - Part 1

Room wanted (Los Angeles)
Looking to rent a room. Am OK with living in North Hollywood/valley, Weho, Hollywood areas. Would like a building that includes laundry facilities. Love dogs if you have 'em. I’m a nonsmoker, non-drug user (OK with 420), and a social drinker. Consider myself to be neat, clean, respectful, and responsible. Call/text CMG brother David at (213) 446-7176.     4/20/18

CMEN Gathering Weekend $59 (Los Angeles)
Last weekend of legendary CMEN Malibu Gathering only $59 ($39 if you camp).  This is the full weekend (after Labor Day, Sept. 7-8-9) with all privileges at the CMEN Malibu Gathering. Frolic with 400 nude gay men with all meals and activities, including the Olympic size pool and a full slate of parties and events, for an unbelievably low price: $59 (not per day; $59 total for the whole weekend); only $39 if you camp in a tent. Open to all (even guys who’ve done CMEN Gatherings before). Don't wait. Visit today.     4/19/18

The Erotic Masculine: (Berkeley)
An Exploration of Male Sexual Energy. Come Experience a day of sensuality with other men. It's a workshop for men who are seeking a deeper connection. What we will cover: Boundaries, Permission, Limits. Asking for what we want in regards to our erotic self. Using energy, breath work and touch as a way to connect. Meditations to activate sensuality. How to stimulate our body and to another man. Moving, Dancing and Sensual improv. How to cultivate a sensually playful attitude! May 20, 2018 10 AM - 5 PM. to book your space!     4/11/18

Roommate Wanted (Pasadena)
I live in a 2 bedroom 2nd floor walk-up in Pasadena near Catalina and Walnut (just north of freeway).  Walk to upscale South Lake Ave. Walk to Gold Line. Fully furnished, except for your bedroom. Rent is $700 + 1/2 utilities, $700 security.  Available June 1.  Call or text Quark (Robert Burnham) at (213) 595-4236, email:     4/18/18

Room Wanted (San Diego)
Hi, looking to rent a room in the north county area. Can pay $800.00 a month. Looking to move as early as May 1st. Please contact me at or (619) 797-7245. Thank you, Andy     4/19/18

Looking for CMG T-Shirts (statewide)
Hi. I am looking for anyone that is no longer wearing their CMG shirts from Santa Rosa.  I am looking for large shirts from 2014 and 2012 and before. I would also consider other Gatherings where shirts were issued. I plan on being at the upcoming May Gathering. Thanks. Cowboy Seth     4/20/18

Did You Know . . . ?

Why We Need to Bring Back the Art of Communal Bathing

by Jamie Mackey

For most of the history of our species, in most parts of the world, bathing has been a collective act. In ancient Asia, the practice was a religious ritual believed to have medical benefits related to the purification of the soul and body. For the Greeks, the baths were associated with self-expression, song, dance, and sport, while in Rome they served as community centres, places to eat, exercise, read, and debate politics.

But communal bathing is rare in the modern world. While there are places where it remains an important part of social life – in Japan, Sweden and Turkey, for example – for those living in major cities, particularly in the Anglosphere, the practice is virtually extinct. The vast majority of people in London, New York and Sydney have become used to washing alone, at home, in plexi-glass containers – showering as a functional action, to clean one’s own private body in the fastest and most efficient way possible.

The eclipse of communal bathing is one symptom of a wider global transformation, away from small ritualistic societies to vast urban metropolises populated by loose networks of private individuals. It has contributed to rampant loneliness, apathy and the emergence of new psychological phenomena, from depression to panic and social anxiety disorders. ‘Urban alienation’, a term much-used by sociologists at the start of the 20th century, has become a cliché for describing today’s world.

It is difficult to imagine a more powerful counter-image to the dominant picture of modernity than the archetypal bathhouse. The role such spaces have in bringing together people who might otherwise remain separate, and placing them in a situation of direct physical contact. It is this aspect of proximity that remains significant today.

Reintroducing bathhouses with such a principle in mind could be a means of tackling the loneliness of living in contemporary megacities. Today, many people are turning to yoga, mindfulness and other mind-body practices as a private means of resolving the sense of ‘disembodiment’ that can arise from a cramped life spent in metro carriages and hunched over computer screens. The bathhouse could provide a similar space to focus on the body but, crucially, it would do so at the collective level, bringing corporeality and touch back into the sphere of social interaction. The Japanese call this hadaka no tsukiai (‘naked association’) or, in the words of a new generation, “skinship.”

This is a simple principle: that being physically present with one another makes us more aware of ourselves, and those around us, as biological – not purely linguistic and intellectual – organisms. The ghostly figures that slide past on trains and buses can, in such a space, cease to appear as abstract ideas or numbers and become human once again.  

Directly experiencing other real bodies, touching and smelling them, is also an important way of understanding our own bodies which otherwise must be interpreted through the often distorted, sanitised and Photoshopped mirrors of advertising, film and other media.

The relatively liberal attitude towards such issues in countries such as Denmark, where nudity in the bathhouse is the norm, and in some cases mandatory, exemplifies how the practice might help renormalise a basic sense of diversity and break through the rigid laws that regulate the so-called ‘normal body’.

It’s churlish to simply disregard the public bath as an object of classical nostalgia. Communal bathing is a near-universal trait among our species and has a meaning that extends far beyond personal hygiene. There are pragmatic reasons to re-invent the practice, to be sure, but its anthropological diversity suggests that there might be a more fundamental need for this ancient and deeply human art.

Jamie Mackey is a writer and translator whose work has appeared in the New Statesman, Italy Magazine and Il Manifesto, among others. He is the co-founder of Precarious Europe and an editor at openDemocracy. He lives in Florence.

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CMG Marketplace - Part 2

Offering Place to Stay (Tucson AZ)
I am once again inviting any and all CMG guys who come to or through Tucson to stay in my home. We're moving to a nicer, bigger home. You'll have your own room, a dog who will love you upon sight, hosts who will entertain you or leave you to yourself as you prefer. Just give me as much prior notice as possible. And guys, do please take advantage of this! Contact me at or (520) 398- 6826 (no calls before 10 AM please). Merlin Spillers     4/24/18

BA-MEN (So Cal)
BA-MEN (Beach Areas Men Enjoying Naturism), a men's naturist/nudist club in Orange County, Long Beach, and nearby, invites all 18+ men. Join us in Palm Springs May 25-June 1.  Staying at a timeshare that sleeps six, and have a car for 4-5 total leaving Garden Grove on 5/25.  No fee, donations only.  (Food, etc., extra.) Other May events include a massage workshop, movies, games, & more! See our calendar: http://BA-MEN.Org/calendar/. Short-notice events added often, check the calendar & forums: http://BA-MEN.Org/yahoo/, and http://BA-MEN.Org/facebook/. Visit BA-MEN: http://BA-MEN.Org. Questions? Download our newsletter (NSFW): http://BA-MEN.Org/newsletters/current/.    4/23/18

Freshen Your Photo (statewide)
Can you find my grandfather in this and make this a nicer, closer shot?”    Done! Through, longtime CMG member Milo Shapiro saves old pictures, improves current ones, and even removes people/things from photos.  Email him photos for a free estimate. What photo in your desk drawer or desktop folder needs fixing? Wish decades old photos looked fresh or had color? Sun bleaching, water damage, scratches or tears on old shots? Email Milo your photo for a free estimate.     4/1/18

Massage and Yoga (San Francisco)
CMGer and CMT Brian Swager offers serious, therapeutic, healing bodywork with a warm, sensual approach incorporating Swedish, deep tissue, shiatsu, lomi lomi, craniosacral, and Body Electric style tantric techniques. Warm, quiet, clean studio, quality table, Sacred Earth lotion, shower. Also available for private yoga sessions, naked or clothed. Additional info:  (415) 551-7866     4/20/18

Confused by Technology? (Los Angeles)
IT Acquisition & Services (Pasadena, LA-area): Free consultation, $20 for 20 minutes. Let me help you navigate the IT issues you are facing today, so that you can enjoy your technology tomorrow. Wanting a new gadget or a new pc/mac for Xmas?? Receiving errors or warnings??  I have seen most everything and can make recommendations to fit your budget. Maybe a Chromebook ( is best? I will always be helpful for any decision-making. (  Leave me (Harold Felton) a message at (626) 398-6864 anytime, day or night.     4/18/18

Links of Interest

LGBT Social & Recreational Organizations
CMG (California Men's Gatherings)
OUT4FUN (Gay Calendar of Events)
SAGA-LA (Los Angeles Gay Ski & Snowboard Club)
SAGA-SD (San Diego Gay Ski & Snowboard Club)
Great Outdoors
APGF (Asian/Pacific Gays & Friends)
POZabilities (San Diego Social Network)
GLTA (Gay & Lesbian Tennis Association)
IGBO (International Gay Bowling Organization)
IAGSDC (International Association of Gay Square Dance Clubs)
Fun and Games Club
Arriba (Ski & Snowboard Club for Gays & Lesbians)
LA Blades Hockey Club
Gay Outdoors
LANG (Los Angeles Nude Guys)
CMEN (California Men Enjoying Naturism)
BA-MEN (Beach Areas Men Enjoying Naturism - for O.C., Long Beach, & South Bay)
Asian Pacific Islander Pride Council (Facebook Page)
Satrang (South Asian Queers of Southern California)
Black & White Men Together (Southern California)
Radical Faeries LA
LARF (Los Angeles Radical Faeries)
Menstuff Events Calendar
A Men's Project
So CA Bondage Club
East Bay Network
Men's Massage Network (Los Angeles)
Southern California Gay & Lesbian Club (and Friends!)
Southern California Cycling Group
The Billys

Community Organizations
Los Angeles LGBT Center
San Francisco LGBT Community Center
San Diego LGBT Community Center
Sacramento LGBT Center
Palm Springs LGBT Center
Antelope Valley OUTtreach Center
LA LGBT Center Senior Services
AIDS Project LA
Shanti Orange County
Lifeworks Mentoring
Project Angel Food
Project Chicken Soup (Los Angeles County)
Hollywood Free Clinic
SCA (Sexual Compulsives Anonymous)
L.A. Youth Supportive Services (Teen and Young Adult Hotline)
Southern Oregon Pride
Lotus Rising Project
Pacific Center (Berkeley)
Red Circle Project
One (National Gay and Lesbian Archives)
Pop Luck Club
Trevor Project
L.A. County 211
Mankind Project Los Angeles
Mankind Project San Diego
The Discovery Community (Bay Area)
Gay For Good
Starland Community
HSD (Homeless Shelters)
UCSF Alliance Health Project (San Francisco)
The Lavender Effect
North County LGBTQ Resource Center (Oceanside)
HIV Long-term Survivors

Political Organizations
Equality California
Human Rights Campaign
Stonewall Democrats (Los Angeles)
Log Cabin Republicans

Miscellaneous Organizations & Listings
Gay Business Directory (LGBT Yellow Pages)
Gay and Lesbian Chamber of Commerce (L.A.)


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