California Men's Gatherings presents . . .
February 1, 2019                                         Volume 12, Issue 2

Binky's List
CMG Community News, Events of
Interest, & Marketplace Classifieds

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Gay Elder Circle (Los Angeles)
The mission of the Gay Elder Circle is to support and encourage older gay men in becoming mindfully conscious and effective Elders. Our fellowship is united in the purpose of community building and perpetuating LGBTQ+ cultural and ancestral wisdom. By doing so, we encourage gay men to discover and actualize their innate gifts and choose to serve a greater good. If you feel moved to join us, we meet second Sundays (except in June) from 3-5 in the Community Center building at Plummer Park (7377 Santa Monica Blvd, West Hollywood). Contact:,
,     1/24/19

Speed Dating Comes to LA...the CalComMen Way! (LA)
Saturday, Feb 2nd, 7-9 PM, Tarzana
Come & meet 29 other heart-centered men in an evening of light conversation & heavy dessert . . . and who know who you'll meet? Every man will have a 5-minute "speed date" with every other man, and a chance to secretly select them for a date. (Results will be confidentially sent via private email, with contacts of the men who "match" with you.) Don't worry.. if nothing else, we'll all make some great new friends! $10 suggested donation. RSVP now to for complete details.     1/23/19

Heart Circles/Potluck (LA & Palm Springs)
These are CalComMen events. Sunday, Feb 3rd, 6-8 PM (LA/Pasadena). RSVP to Sunday Feb 10th, 6-8 pm (Palm Springs). RSVP to Questions:     1/23/19

Some other stuff:
Feb 2        Mr. Faultline Leather 2019 (LA)

Feb 9        Great Outdoors Orange County Day Trips (OC)

Feb 9        Different Spokes San Francisco Bike Ride (SF)

Feb (all month)    Different Spoke SoCal Bike Rides (SoCal)

Thanks to CMGer Don Thuotte.

CMG Marketplace - Part 1

Intuitive Reading for CMG Men by Clay K. (statewide)
Are you interested in receiving an intuitive reading? It turns out I’m a bit psychic! During February, to complete my official certification, I’m training up by offering basic readings free of charge to a limited number of CMG men, first-come, first-served. No subject too taboo! Submit your question and pick a call time at Questions:     1/24/18

Massage: Your Way (Palm Springs)
Palm Springs area. I provide multiple techniques customized for you to relax, rest, & recover. Spa services to nourish your body & soul. Available massage modalities include Therapeutic, Deep Tissue, Thermal Palms, Positional Release, and Body Electric style Tantric. See my website at for modality descriptions. Call or Text (404) 786-7125 for your appointment to revitalize your life. Cash & Credit Cards accepted.     1/15/19

Private Room & Bath for Rent (Orange County)
Remodeled private bedroom and bath in Anaheim, CA.  Near Harbor and Ball. Walking distance to Anaheim Packing House and downtown area and less than one mile to Disneyland. Amenities: off-street parking, free onsite laundry facilities, all utilities included (gas, water, electricity, cable (DirecTV), Internet, & trash), double-sided closet, includes fridge and new microwave, new queen bed frame and mattress. Private entrance.  Rent: $900/mo with $300 deposit.  Month-to-month terms.  Contact Mike.  Text/Call: (858) 336-4999.     1/5/19

In Search of Lost Lives (statewide)
Announcing the publication of In Search of Lost Lives, Michael Goddart's unique memoir in which he depicts precise, fascinating details of life in lost worlds and spiritual experiences and evolution. "… a veritable epic of reincarnation literature …" -Kirkus Reviews. Of particular interest may be the twelve "homophile" lives, including the three Great Loves Goddart enjoyed in 1920s London, Viking Age Denmark, and Ancient Greece. Also, discover the Inspiration in Spiritual Revolution: A Seeker's Guide–. "A book of true wisdom. Save yourself pain and read it." -Bernie Siegel, MD,  Love, Medicine & Miracles. Kindly visit     1/2/19

Heart2Heart Touch Workshops (Los Angeles)
Monthly Heart2Heart Touch Workshops are held  at the LGBT Center’s Village at Ed Gould Plaza. The activity is a safe, space for men to connect with men using supportive, nourishing, non-sexual touch. In structured fun activities, fully clothed participants experience what it feels like to  be safely held, to receive warm hugs, to have their heads tenderly stroked, or to dance a slow dance cheek-to-cheek.  The workshops establish healthy boundaries, creating guidelines for safety, communication, and support. John Soroczak LMFT, facilitates, Information at and     1/2/19

Did You Know . . . ?

Six PRACTICAL Tips for Cultivating Happiness

by Patty Ray Avalon

Happiness is always a big topic in the world of science, psychology, and spirituality. Google happiness and you will many things from “Positive Psychology,” to Certification in the Science of Happiness, and a variety of inspired TED talks.

After pouring through endless blog posts and websites, I decided I couldn’t read one more set of “how to be happy” guidelines from the experts. What I wanted was down to earth, real-people experiences.

I informally surveyed ten of my more successful pals about their personal happiness. Some had everything going well for them in all areas, others were in rough spots in their marriages, some had health issues, and a few were struggling financially. All agreed however, that no matter what their challenges were, they had the ability to create a general state of happiness. Also, these people didn’t seem to view challenges as problems, but rather, as opportunities to shift into better possibilities. Here is the collective response to the question, “What is happiness for you?

1.    Get in alignment with your heart and head in regard to what you are doing. Or stop doing it. Or start doing what brings you into alignment. There’s a feeling of power and peace when one is operating from a place of inner integrity.

2.    Consider an attitude adjustment. There are times in life when we don’t seem to get what we intend. Or people don’t behave the way we would like. Years ago I found a book about a successful businessman who had had a spiritual awakening as a result of changing how he did business. He chose to see everyone and everything through a filter of generosity and trust.  Those were the qualities he eventually experienced over and over again. The Universe seems to mirror back to us exactly what we convey in our actions, emotions and viewpoints.

3.    Connect with meaning and purpose in your life. All people at some time question, “What is my purpose?” One of my friends discovered that her purpose is simply, “To have life, and to have life fully.” Another man said that his purpose is, “To be exactly who I am, not what others expect me to be, and to do my best.”  

4.    Acknowledge yourself, acknowledge others.  Look for all the ways you contribute, create, explore, and love in life.  Feeling good is what happiness really is. When you take clear inventory of just how much you really accomplish in life, you will feel good. Acknowledging others goes a long way toward creating good will by telling people in words, writing, or actions that you recognize and appreciate them.  

5.    Let go of trying to control outcomes.  Letting go puts us in a place of feeling trust in life.  We can rarely control how things turn out, but we can control our interpretations and responses to the results. Letting go also opens up our ability to perceive new solutions, let more inner energy flow, and relax and de-stress.

6.    Do things that raise your self-esteem and don’t do things that lower it. Stay in integrity as much as possible and forgive yourself when you don’t.

Patty Ray Avalon is a Residential and Guest Trainer at The Monroe Institute in Virginia

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CMG Marketplace - Part 2

Freshen Your Photo (statewide)
We found this torn, scraped shot from 1966 of our brother, killed in the Vietnam War.  Can you make it nicer for the family?”  Done…and now the only color shot they have of him!  Through, longtime CMG member Milo Shapiro saves old pictures, improves current ones, and even removes people/things from photos.  Email him photos for a free estimate. What photo in your desk drawer or desktop folder needs fixing? Wish decades old photos looked fresh or had color? Sun bleaching, water damage, scratches or tears on old shots? Email Milo your photo for a free estimate.     1/11/19

Gay-Tantra with Armin Heining (Statewide)
GAY-TANTRA™ in San Francisco, LA, San Diego & Palm Springs, with Armin Heining. Please join me, when I will be on my 11th international North America Tour and experience GAY-TANTRA at its origins (since 1992). Intensive-Workshop "Tantra-Energy Sex" (8 hours), Feb 23 in Los Angeles and Feb 24 in San Diego.  Sampler-Workshop "Contacting & Energy Exchanges" (3 hours), Feb 21 in Palm Springs and Feb 25 in San Francisco. Enjoy a wonderful, unforgettable, sustainable, real tantric experience.,     1/22/19

Men's Nude Yoga Classes February 2019 (Los Angeles)
#1 Men's Nude Yoga Basics, Saturday, February 9th. #2  Men's Nude Total Body Partners Massage, Saturday, February 9th. #3 Men's Nude Partners Thai Whole Body Massage, Saturday, February 23rd. Email for more details:      1/14/19

Links of Interest

LGBT Social & Recreational Organizations
CMG (California Men's Gatherings)
OUT4FUN (Gay Calendar of Events)
SAGA-LA (Los Angeles Gay Ski & Snowboard Club)
SAGA-SD (San Diego Gay Ski & Snowboard Club)
Great Outdoors
APGF (Asian/Pacific Gays & Friends)
POZabilities (San Diego Social Network)
GLTA (Gay & Lesbian Tennis Association)
IGBO (International Gay Bowling Organization)
IAGSDC (International Association of Gay Square Dance Clubs)
Fun and Games Club
Arriba (Ski & Snowboard Club for Gays & Lesbians)
LA Blades Hockey Club
Gay Outdoors
LANG (Los Angeles Nude Guys)
CMEN (California Men Enjoying Naturism)
BA-MEN (Beach Areas Men Enjoying Naturism - for O.C., Long Beach, & South Bay)
Asian Pacific Islander Pride Council (Facebook Page)
Satrang (South Asian Queers of Southern California)
Black & White Men Together (Southern California)
FaeLA (radical Faeries Los Angeles)
Menstuff Events Calendar
So CA Bondage Club
East Bay Network
Men's Massage Network (Los Angeles)
Southern California Gay & Lesbian Club (and Friends!)
Southern California Cycling Group
The Billys

Unusual Attitudes
Jonathan's Circle (Fresno)
(San Francisco)
Gay Elder Circle (Los Angeles)

Community Organizations
Los Angeles LGBT Center
San Francisco LGBT Community Center
Oakland LGBT Community Center
San Diego LGBT Community Center
Sacramento LGBT Center
Palm Springs LGBT Center
Antelope Valley OUTtreach Center
LA LGBT Center Social Services & Housing
AIDS Project LA
Shanti Orange County
Lifeworks Mentoring
Project Angel Food
Project Chicken Soup (Los Angeles County)
Hollywood Sunset Free Clinic
SCA (Sexual Compulsives Anonymous)
L.A. Youth Supportive Services (Teen and Young Adult Hotline)
Southern Oregon Pride
Lotus Rising Project
Pacific Center (Berkeley)
Red Circle Project
One (National Gay and Lesbian Archives)
Pop Luck Club
Trevor Project
L.A. County 211
Mankind Project Los Angeles
Mankind Project San Diego
The Discovery Community (Bay Area)
Gay For Good
Starland Community
HSD (Homeless Shelters)
UCSF Alliance Health Project (San Francisco)
The Lavender Effect
North County LGBTQ Resource Center (Oceanside)
HIV Long-term Survivors

Wildwood Retreat

Political Organizations
Equality California
Human Rights Campaign
Stonewall Democrats (Los Angeles)
Log Cabin Republicans

Miscellaneous Organizations & Listings
Gay Business Directory (LGBT Yellow Pages)
Gay and Lesbian Chamber of Commerce (L.A.)


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