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			| April 1, 2019                              Volume 12, Issue 4 | 
		
		
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			 Binky's List 
			CMG Community News, Events of 
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			  Rubbish and Dreams (Los Angeles) 
			April 13, 2019, 2  - 3:30 PM (Q & A with reception) 
			The California LGBT Arts Alliance is pleased to announce a PUBLIC TALK titled “Rubbish and Dreams: The Genderqueer Performance Art of Stephen Varble” with Curator David J. Getsy, Professor at the School of the Art Institute of Chicago. Getsy, will provide a behind-the-scenes overview of the exhibition and of  Varble’s life and work. At the Weho Council Chambers, at 625 N San Vicente Blvd., West Hollywood. Admission is free. Validated parking on site. You must RSVP. Register here.     3/24/19 
			 
			 
			 Gay Elder Circle (Los Angeles) 
			The mission of the Gay Elder Circle is to support and encourage older gay men in becoming mindfully conscious and effective Elders. Our fellowship is united in the purpose of community building and perpetuating LGBTQ+ cultural and ancestral wisdom. By doing so, we encourage gay men to discover and actualize their innate gifts and choose to serve a greater good. If you feel moved to join us, we meet this month at a special location on Sunday, April 14 from 3:00 - 5:00 PM in the Fellowship Hall of the Harmony Toluca Lake campus of Hollywood United Methodist Church, 4301 Cahuenga Blvd., Toluca Lake, CA 91602. Contact information: www.gayeldercircle.org, gayeldercircle@gmail.com, facebook.com/gayeldercircle.     3/17/19 
			 
			 
			 CalComMen Cuddle Puddle (Palm Springs) 
			New from CalComMen: Cuddle Puddles every 2nd Saturday night in Palm Springs, starting Saturday, April 13th @ 7 PM.  What is a cuddle puddle? A Cuddle Puddle is CalComMen’s cuddle party -- very sensual, lots of touch, no sex, clothes on/shoes off! Imagine a room full of heart-centered men…an evening of relaxed conversation, fun music, cuddling, perhaps being held in a loving way by a new friend. We ask men to honor this safe sensual-but-never-sexual environment. All men-who-love-men of all ages, sizes, shapes & colors are welcome! $10 suggested donation. RSVP to Info@CalComMen.com for details!     3/24/19 
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			| CMG Marketplace - Part 1 | 
		
		
			
			
			 Roommate Wanted (San Diego)  
			Roommate wanted for quiet senior park in El Cajon. Male seeking a 50+ senior, liberal, non-smoking roommate to rent a large bedroom in a manufactured home in quiet gated community. Private bedroom (12'x15'), own private bathroom with shower/tub. Covered/tandem parking. Near transportation. 
			Email Steve at tomoffinland17@gmail.com.     3/9/19 
			 
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			                                                                                                            AIDS vigil at Hyde Park,
1993. 
			I Lost All My Gay Role Models to AIDS—Be Grateful You Won’t Lose Yours 
			Respect your elders, because unlike mine, they’ll live long, healthy lives. 
			by David Toussaint  3/8/2019 
			 
			Not long ago, a gay 20-something told me that, as a 54-year-old unmarried man, I had no business giving advice to members of his generation. Unlike him, my “failure” of being single and childless, and, by proxy, promiscuous and shallow, meant I needed to pack up my sad-sack bags and get out of the picture. 
			 
			I’m fairly certain that, when I was in my 20s, I never would have disrespected an older gay man in such an uncouth manner, considering the obstacles I faced as a young, gay adult. 
			 
			I can only assume I’d have behaved differently, however, because I never had the chance. All of my older gay role models died of AIDS. 
			 
			Shortly after I moved to New York, in 1987, I broke up with my boyfriend and was left with few gay friends. I joined the all-male Chelsea Gym and, within a month, a Spandex-wearing muscle jock named Jerry took me under his wing. He told me about clubs, men, how to get a better workout. We exchanged numbers and he invited me to my first post-boyfriend gay party. I had a little bit of a crush on him and he brushed it off. 
			 
			A few months later, a woman phoned and invited me to another gay event: Jerry’s memorial service. She’d gotten my number from his address book and was calling all of his contacts. It wasn’t until after she phoned that I realized I’d not seen Jerry at the gym once since the party. I also didn’t realize that gym absences followed by death notices were about to become the new normal. 
			 
			Mark helped me get my first job as a proofreader, which I didn’t much care for, but it sure beat waiting tables. He introduced me to the gay section at Jones Beach and Lower East Side bars, and tried to set me up with Jeff, who lived on the other side of my street and would sit in his little garden with a cup of coffee and people watch . . . 
			 
			The rest of this article:http://www.newnownext.com/gay-mentors-died-aids/03/2019/ 
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			  The Eros Circle Massage Exchange (Palm Springs) 
			Sunday, May 19, 10 AM - 4 PM 
			The Eros Circle is a small group of men, who meet to learn and practice new sensual bodywork; to re-connect with old friends; and to make new ones. The day includes structured and facilitated experiences in a safe, supportive and confidential space, plus a hearty potluck lunch! Open to all men-who-love men of all ages, sizes, shapes & colors – gay, bi, trans, gender queer, fluid and straight -- especially first-timers. $40. RSVP to Info@CalComMen.com.     3/24/19 
			 
			 
			 Are you shy? (Orange County) 
			Are you a shy guy? Shy about being nude in a group?  Or about using a urinal in a men’s room?  Or have some other body shyness issue? Come to a WHYP-SoCal support meeting in Garden Grove and get over your fears! Check us out at:  http://WHYP-SoCal.party. Yahoo Group & Facebook Group
forums are online to help, too. There's no membership fee for this, but a $2 door fee is requested (though no one is turned away for lack of funds). 1-on-1 meeting times are available, too.     3/24/19 
			 
			 
			 Confused by Technology? (Los Angeles) 
			Computer Repair You-Name-iT Special - $20 for the first hour.  Let me help you solve your information technology issues - whatever the season. Are you receiving errors or warnings on your PC/Mac or Android device?  I have seen most everything and can make recommendations to fit your budget. Maybe a Chromebook (http://www.google.com/chromebook) is best? 
			I will always be helpful (http://xkcd.com/627/) for any decisions. Standard Rate is $60/hr. Leave me (Harold Felton) a message at (626) 398-6864 anytime, day or night.     3/33/19 
			 
			 
			 Freshen Your Photo (statewide) 
			Through www.FreshenYourPhoto.com, longtime CMG member Milo Shapiro saves old pictures, improves current ones, and even removes people/things from photos.  Email him photos for a free estimate. What photo in your desk drawer or desktop folder needs fixing? Wish decades old photos looked fresh or had color? Sun bleaching, water damage, scratches or tears on old shots? Email Milo your photo for a free estimate.     3/1/19 
			 
			 
			 Sensual Massage by Tall, Bearish, Nurturing Man (Los Angeles) 
			Come and relax in a Zen-like atmosphere. Take an hour out of your day to enjoy being pampered. Strong intuitive hands. You create the type of massage you would like. You will also enjoy the soft music and candles. In a Van Nuys house with a private room. Shower and easy parking available. Large oversized massage table, and clean sheets. Times available: after 6 PM on weekdays. On weekends, call to see what I have available. Cost is $85 for over an hour.  Book your appointment with Randy (323) 236-5150.     3/23/19 
			 
			 
			 Offering Place to Stay (Tucson AZ) 
			Any CMG coming to or through Tucson is welcome to stay in my home.  You’ll have your own bedroom, a dog who will love you and hosts who will entertain you as you wish or leave you to yourself as you wish.  Please let me know as much in advance as possible when you’ll be here, and please do take advantage of this.  Phone:  520) 398-6826 (no calls before 10 A.M. please) and email is  threemsnguys@outlook.com. I’m looking
forward to having you here.  Merlin Spillers.    3/1/19 
			 
			 
			 Massage and Yoga (San Francisco) 
			CMGer and CMT Brian Swager offers serious, therapeutic, healing bodywork with a warm, sensual approach incorporating Swedish, deep tissue, shiatsu, lomi lomi, craniosacral, and Body Electric style tantric techniques. Warm, quiet, clean studio, quality table, Sacred Earth lotion, shower.  Also available for private yoga sessions, naked or clothed. Additional info:www.sfomassage.com.  
			(415) 551-7866 brian@sfomassage.com.     3/22/19 
			 
			 
			 BA-MEN (So Cal) 
			BA-MEN (Beach Areas Men Enjoying Naturism), 
			a club in Orange County, Long Beach, and nearby, invites all 18+ men! Upcoming events include:  4/13 3-8 PM (Pre-)Easter “Egg” Decorating & Movies w/Potluck; 4/20 3-8 PM Massage Trade & Body Scrub Exchange w/Potluck; 4/28 3-6 PM Touch Playshop; 5/5 1-7 PM Star Wars Day/Cinco de Mayo Party; 5/18 3-9 PM Movies & Nat’l. Pizza Party Day; and May 25-27 we’re taking a trip to Tecopa Hot Springs, which is sulfur-free! 
			Visit BA-MEN at:http://BA-MEN.Org. Questions?  Write: BAMENClub@GMail.com. 
			And see our newsletter (NSFW!):http://BA-MEN.Org/newsletters/current/.    3/24/19 
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			| Links of Interest | 
		
		
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			 LGBT Social & Recreational Organizations 
			CMG (California Men’s Gatherings) 
			OUT4FUN (Gay Calendar of Events) 
			SAGA-LA (Los Angeles Gay Ski & Snowboard Club) 
			SAGA-SD (San Diego Gay Ski & Snowboard Club) 
			Great Outdoors 
			APGF (Asian/Pacific Gays & Friends) 
			POZabilities (San Diego Social Network) 
			GLTA (Gay & Lesbian Tennis Association) 
			IGBO (International Gay Bowling Organization) 
			IAGSDC (International Association of Gay Square Dance Clubs) 
			Fun and Games Club 
			Arriba (Ski & Snowboard Club for Gays & Lesbians) 
			LA Blades Hockey Club 
			Gay Outdoors 
			LANG (Los Angeles Nude Guys) 
			CMEN (California Men Enjoying Naturism) 
			BA-MEN (Beach Areas Men Enjoying Naturism - for O.C., Long Beach, & South Bay) 
			Asian Pacific Islander Pride Council (Facebook Page) 
			Satrang (South Asian Queers of Southern California) 
			Avatar 
			Bienestar 
			Black & White Men Together (Southern California) 
			FaeLA (radical Faeries Los Angeles) 
			Menstuff 
			Menstuff Events Calendar 
			So CA Bondage Club 
			East Bay Network 
			Men's Massage Network (Los Angeles) 
			Southern California Gay & Lesbian Club (and Friends!) 
			Southern California Cycling Group 
			The Billys 
			Gaysurfers.net 
			CalComMen 
			Unusual Attitudes 
			Jonathan's Circle (Fresno) 
			MAX (San Francisco) 
			 
			Community Organizations 
			Los Angeles LGBT Center 
			San Francisco LGBT Community Center 
			Oakland LGBT Community Center 
			San Diego LGBT Community Center 
			Sacramento LGBT Center 
			Palm Springs LGBT Center 
			Antelope Valley OUTtreach Center 
			LA LGBT Center Social Services & Housing 
			AIDS Project LA 
			Shanti Orange County 
			Lifeworks Mentoring 
			Project Angel Food 
			Project Chicken Soup (Los Angeles County) 
			Hollywood Sunset Free Clinic 
			SCA (Sexual Compulsives Anonymous) 
			L.A. Youth Supportive Services (Teen and Young Adult Hotline) 
			Southern Oregon Pride 
			Lotus Rising Project 
			Pacific Center (Berkeley) 
			Red Circle Project 
			One (National Gay and Lesbian Archives) 
			Pop Luck Club 
			Trevor Project 
			L.A. County 211 
			Mankind Project Los Angeles 
			Mankind Project San Diego 
			The Discovery Community (Bay Area) 
			Gay For Good 
			Starland Community 
			HSD (Homeless Shelters) 
			UCSF Alliance Health Project (San Francisco) 
			The Lavender Effect 
			North County LGBTQ Resource Center (Oceanside) 
			HIV Long-term Survivors 
			Outfest 
			Wildwood Retreat 
			Gay Elder Circle (Los Angeles) 
			 
			Political Organizations 
			Equality California 
			Human Rights Campaign 
			Stonewall Democrats (Los Angeles) 
			Log Cabin Republicans 
			 
			Miscellaneous Organizations & Listings 
			Gay Business Directory (LGBT Yellow Pages) 
			Gay and Lesbian Chamber of Commerce (L.A.)  
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