California Men's Gatherings presents . . .
April 1, 2019                              Volume 12, Issue 4

Binky's List
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Rubbish and Dreams (Los Angeles)
April 13, 2019, 2  - 3:30 PM (Q & A with reception)
The California LGBT Arts Alliance is pleased to announce a PUBLIC TALK titled “Rubbish and Dreams: The Genderqueer Performance Art of Stephen Varble” with Curator David J. Getsy, Professor at the School of the Art Institute of Chicago. Getsy, will provide a behind-the-scenes overview of the exhibition and of  Varble’s life and work. At the Weho Council Chambers, at 625 N San Vicente Blvd., West Hollywood. Admission is free. Validated parking on site. You must RSVP. Register here.     3/24/19

Gay Elder Circle (Los Angeles)
The mission of the Gay Elder Circle is to support and encourage older gay men in becoming mindfully conscious and effective Elders. Our fellowship is united in the purpose of community building and perpetuating LGBTQ+ cultural and ancestral wisdom. By doing so, we encourage gay men to discover and actualize their innate gifts and choose to serve a greater good. If you feel moved to join us, we meet this month at a special location on Sunday, April 14 from 3:00 - 5:00 PM in the Fellowship Hall of the Harmony Toluca Lake campus of Hollywood United Methodist Church, 4301 Cahuenga Blvd., Toluca Lake, CA 91602. Contact information:,,     3/17/19

CalComMen Cuddle Puddle (Palm Springs)
New from CalComMen: Cuddle Puddles every 2nd Saturday night in Palm Springs, starting Saturday, April 13th @ 7 PM.  What is a cuddle puddle? A Cuddle Puddle is CalComMen’s cuddle party -- very sensual, lots of touch, no sex, clothes on/shoes off! Imagine a room full of heart-centered men…an evening of relaxed conversation, fun music, cuddling, perhaps being held in a loving way by a new friend. We ask men to honor this safe sensual-but-never-sexual environment. All men-who-love-men of all ages, sizes, shapes & colors are welcome! $10 suggested donation. RSVP to for details!     3/24/19

CMG Marketplace - Part 1

Roommate Wanted (San Diego)
Roommate wanted for quiet senior park in El Cajon. Male seeking a 50+ senior, liberal, non-smoking roommate to rent a large bedroom in a manufactured home in quiet gated community. Private bedroom (12'x15'), own private bathroom with shower/tub. Covered/tandem parking. Near transportation.
Email Steve at
.     3/9/19

Did You Know . . . ?

                                                                                                          AIDS vigil at Hyde Park, 1993.
I Lost All My Gay Role Models to AIDS—Be Grateful You Won’t Lose Yours
Respect your elders, because unlike mine, they’ll live long, healthy lives.
by David Toussaint  3/8/2019

Not long ago, a gay 20-something told me that, as a 54-year-old unmarried man, I had no business giving advice to members of his generation. Unlike him, my “failure” of being single and childless, and, by proxy, promiscuous and shallow, meant I needed to pack up my sad-sack bags and get out of the picture.

I’m fairly certain that, when I was in my 20s, I never would have disrespected an older gay man in such an uncouth manner, considering the obstacles I faced as a young, gay adult.

I can only assume I’d have behaved differently, however, because I never had the chance. All of my older gay role models died of AIDS.

Shortly after I moved to New York, in 1987, I broke up with my boyfriend and was left with few gay friends. I joined the all-male Chelsea Gym and, within a month, a Spandex-wearing muscle jock named Jerry took me under his wing. He told me about clubs, men, how to get a better workout. We exchanged numbers and he invited me to my first post-boyfriend gay party. I had a little bit of a crush on him and he brushed it off.

A few months later, a woman phoned and invited me to another gay event: Jerry’s memorial service. She’d gotten my number from his address book and was calling all of his contacts. It wasn’t until after she phoned that I realized I’d not seen Jerry at the gym once since the party. I also didn’t realize that gym absences followed by death notices were about to become the new normal.

Mark helped me get my first job as a proofreader, which I didn’t much care for, but it sure beat waiting tables. He introduced me to the gay section at Jones Beach and Lower East Side bars, and tried to set me up with Jeff, who lived on the other side of my street and would sit in his little garden with a cup of coffee and people watch . . .

The rest of this article:

CMG Marketplace - Part 2

The Eros Circle Massage Exchange (Palm Springs)
Sunday, May 19, 10 AM - 4 PM
The Eros Circle is a small group of men, who meet to learn and practice new sensual bodywork; to re-connect with old friends; and to make new ones. The day includes structured and facilitated experiences in a safe, supportive and confidential space, plus a hearty potluck lunch! Open to all men-who-love men of all ages, sizes, shapes & colors – gay, bi, trans, gender queer, fluid and straight -- especially first-timers. $40. RSVP to     3/24/19

Are you shy? (Orange County)
Are you a shy guy? Shy about being nude in a group?  Or about using a urinal in a men’s room?  Or have some other body shyness issue? Come to a WHYP-SoCal support meeting in Garden Grove and get over your fears! Check us out at: Yahoo Group & Facebook Group forums are online to help, too. There's no membership fee for this, but a $2 door fee is requested (though no one is turned away for lack of funds). 1-on-1 meeting times are available, too.     3/24/19

Confused by Technology? (Los Angeles)
Computer Repair You-Name-iT Special - $20 for the first hour.  Let me help you solve your information technology issues - whatever the season. Are you receiving errors or warnings on your PC/Mac or Android device?  I have seen most everything and can make recommendations to fit your budget. Maybe a Chromebook ( is best?
I will always be helpful ( for any decisions. Standard Rate is $60/hr. Leave me (Harold Felton) a message at (626) 398-6864 anytime, day or night.     3/33/19

Freshen Your Photo (statewide)
Through, longtime CMG member Milo Shapiro saves old pictures, improves current ones, and even removes people/things from photos.  Email him photos for a free estimate. What photo in your desk drawer or desktop folder needs fixing? Wish decades old photos looked fresh or had color? Sun bleaching, water damage, scratches or tears on old shots? Email Milo your photo for a free estimate.     3/1/19

Sensual Massage by Tall, Bearish, Nurturing Man (Los Angeles)
Come and relax in a Zen-like atmosphere. Take an hour out of your day to enjoy being pampered. Strong intuitive hands. You create the type of massage you would like. You will also enjoy the soft music and candles. In a Van Nuys house with a private room. Shower and easy parking available. Large oversized massage table, and clean sheets. Times available: after 6 PM on weekdays. On weekends, call to see what I have available. Cost is $85 for over an hour.  Book your appointment with Randy (323) 236-5150.     3/23/19

Offering Place to Stay (Tucson AZ)
Any CMG coming to or through Tucson is welcome to stay in my home.  You’ll have your own bedroom, a dog who will love you and hosts who will entertain you as you wish or leave you to yourself as you wish.  Please let me know as much in advance as possible when you’ll be here, and please do take advantage of this.  Phone:  520) 398-6826 (no calls before 10 A.M. please) and email is I’m looking forward to having you here.  Merlin Spillers.    3/1/19

Massage and Yoga (San Francisco)
CMGer and CMT Brian Swager offers serious, therapeutic, healing bodywork with a warm, sensual approach incorporating Swedish, deep tissue, shiatsu, lomi lomi, craniosacral, and Body Electric style tantric techniques. Warm, quiet, clean studio, quality table, Sacred Earth lotion, shower.  Also available for private yoga sessions, naked or clothed. Additional info:
(415) 551-7866     3/22/19

BA-MEN (So Cal)
BA-MEN (Beach Areas Men Enjoying Naturism),
a club in Orange County, Long Beach, and nearby, invites all 18+ men! Upcoming events include:  4/13 3-8 PM (Pre-)Easter “Egg” Decorating & Movies w/Potluck; 4/20 3-8 PM Massage Trade & Body Scrub Exchange w/Potluck; 4/28 3-6 PM Touch Playshop; 5/5 1-7 PM Star Wars Day/Cinco de Mayo Party; 5/18 3-9 PM Movies & Nat’l. Pizza Party Day; and May 25-27 we’re taking a trip to Tecopa Hot Springs, which is sulfur-free!
Visit BA-MEN at:
http://BA-MEN.Org. Questions?  Write:
And see our newsletter (NSFW!):
http://BA-MEN.Org/newsletters/current/.    3/24/19

Links of Interest

LGBT Social & Recreational Organizations
CMG (California Men’s Gatherings)
OUT4FUN (Gay Calendar of Events)
SAGA-LA (Los Angeles Gay Ski & Snowboard Club)
SAGA-SD (San Diego Gay Ski & Snowboard Club)
Great Outdoors
APGF (Asian/Pacific Gays & Friends)
POZabilities (San Diego Social Network)
GLTA (Gay & Lesbian Tennis Association)
IGBO (International Gay Bowling Organization)
IAGSDC (International Association of Gay Square Dance Clubs)
Fun and Games Club
Arriba (Ski & Snowboard Club for Gays & Lesbians)
LA Blades Hockey Club
Gay Outdoors
LANG (Los Angeles Nude Guys)
CMEN (California Men Enjoying Naturism)
BA-MEN (Beach Areas Men Enjoying Naturism - for O.C., Long Beach, & South Bay)
Asian Pacific Islander Pride Council (Facebook Page)
Satrang (South Asian Queers of Southern California)
Black & White Men Together (Southern California)
FaeLA (radical Faeries Los Angeles)
Menstuff Events Calendar
So CA Bondage Club
East Bay Network
Men's Massage Network (Los Angeles)
Southern California Gay & Lesbian Club (and Friends!)
Southern California Cycling Group
The Billys

Unusual Attitudes
Jonathan's Circle (Fresno)
(San Francisco)

Community Organizations
Los Angeles LGBT Center
San Francisco LGBT Community Center
Oakland LGBT Community Center
San Diego LGBT Community Center
Sacramento LGBT Center
Palm Springs LGBT Center
Antelope Valley OUTtreach Center
LA LGBT Center Social Services & Housing
AIDS Project LA
Shanti Orange County
Lifeworks Mentoring
Project Angel Food
Project Chicken Soup (Los Angeles County)
Hollywood Sunset Free Clinic
SCA (Sexual Compulsives Anonymous)
L.A. Youth Supportive Services (Teen and Young Adult Hotline)
Southern Oregon Pride
Lotus Rising Project
Pacific Center (Berkeley)
Red Circle Project
One (National Gay and Lesbian Archives)
Pop Luck Club
Trevor Project
L.A. County 211
Mankind Project Los Angeles
Mankind Project San Diego
The Discovery Community (Bay Area)
Gay For Good
Starland Community
HSD (Homeless Shelters)
UCSF Alliance Health Project (San Francisco)
The Lavender Effect
North County LGBTQ Resource Center (Oceanside)
HIV Long-term Survivors

Wildwood Retreat
Gay Elder Circle (Los Angeles)

Political Organizations
Equality California
Human Rights Campaign
Stonewall Democrats (Los Angeles)
Log Cabin Republicans

Miscellaneous Organizations & Listings
Gay Business Directory (LGBT Yellow Pages)
Gay and Lesbian Chamber of Commerce (L.A.)


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