California Men's Gatherings presents . . .
December 1, 2019                                    Volume 12, Issue 12

Binky’s List
CMG Community News, Events of
Interest, & Marketplace Classifieds

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Events & Items of Interest

Binky’s List is Ten Years Old!
Sometime in 2009we're not sure exactly what month–Binky‘s List was born at CMG Los Angeles. Named in honor of our longest attending elder, Al-Binky Hoch, and created as a way for CMG men to tell their brothers about all things that were not officially connected to CMG. A way to legitimately use our entire mailing list to “spread the word” about anything that might be of interest to our members. Things like personal news, events of interest in your area, items for sale, apartments for rent, jobs wanted, personals notices, community links, etc. Over the last decade, more than 1000 notices have been shared with you–shared with all of us. That’s a pretty big number! Let’s keep that going. Please keep your submissions coming. And here’s to another decade of staying in touch and Connecting Men at the Heart.
Bob Goodman, Editor

Round Hole Square Peg 2020 (Los Angeles)

Round Hole Square Peg 4 is a juried photography competition conceived to discover a new LGBTQ visual culture for the 21st century. Opening at Photo LA, the exhibition then moves to the City of West Hollywood's gallery for a month-long run.  Read all the details and the submission guidelines on the website RoundHoleSquarePeg4.comDeadline to enter: December 31, 2019. Photo credits: BlackManWhiteBaby, Mei Xian Qiu, Rick Castro.     11/3/19

CalComMen December Heart Circles (LA & Palm Springs)
Sunday, December 8
7 PM (LA/Sherman Oaks
), 6 PM (Palm Springs)
Would you like a safe & supportive place to talk? A place to share your feelings & emotions confidentially? Please join us! Open to all men-who-love-men, of all ages, colors, sizes, shapes and faith traditions. Suggested Donation $10. Please RSVP to to get the address & time, and save your spot!     11/18/19

CalComMen ChrismaHanuKwanzaKah Party (Palm Springs)
Saturday, December 14, 7:00 PM
Join the men of CalComMen at our annual holiday potluck party, where all traditions are welcome and will be celebrated, along with lots of hearty food and lots of wonderful men. Mix, mingle, eat, "rinse & repeat."
Gre Coffeehouse, Palm Springs.     11/18/19

WeHo Reads / Artists & Icons: Felice Picano (Los Angeles)
Wednesday, December 11, 2019, 7 – 9 PM
Longtime West Hollywood resident and literary icon Felice Picano presents "Coming to Hollywood: 1935-2000, in Words and Pictures," sharing his research on LGBTQ Hollywood for his two novellas, along with readings from the novellas. He will also share how living in West Hollywood has impacted his artistic career. Felice's newest book is Justify My Sins: A Hollywood Novel in Three Acts.  Free entry,
RSVP requested. City of West Hollywood's Council Chambers, 625 N. San Vicente Blvd., West Hollywood, CA 90069     11/18/19

CMG Marketplace - Part 1

Offering Place to Stay (Tucson AZ)
Any CMG coming to or through Tucson is welcome to stay in my home.  You’ll have your own bedroom, a dog who will love you and hosts who will entertain you as you wish or leave you to yourself as you wish.  Please let me know as much in advance as possible when you’ll be here, and please do take advantage of this.  Phone:  (520) 398-6826 (no calls before 10 A.M. please) and email is I’m looking forward to having you here.  Merlin Spillers.    11/3/19

Vacation Rentals (Palm Springs)
Mid-Century Modern Desert Hot Springs/Palm Springs vacation rentals are available throughout the year. Studio, 1BR, and 2BR/2 Bath fully furnished condos. Weekly and monthly discounts are available. Please check The Getaway’s website for rates and availability,     11/2/19

Did You Know . . . ?

Deck the halls, girl!

                                                                                                                  Robert Downey Jr. in Home for the Holidays
Some LGBT movies to warm your holiday season.

Yes, it’s that festive time of the year again.  Time to curl up near the fireplace with your golden retriever, a rum toddy, and the TV remote control, to watch a fine LGBT holiday film.  There are many.  Some are completely gay, and some are simply wonderful holiday films with partial gay content, characters, or gay icons.  Here’s five to get you started.

Home for the Holidays (1995)
Dysfunctional families seem to always be at the heart of holiday films. This Jodie Foster-directed dramedy is no exception. And while the film is technically set during Thanksgiving, it might as well take place over Christmas. If bickering families are your thing, look no further. And keep an eye out for the quirky gay brother played by Robert Downey Jr. … though you can’t miss him.

Meet Me in St. Louis (1944)
Judy Garland!  Need we say more?  Gay icon Garland stars in this unforgettable movie musical directed by Vincente Minelli. It was on the set of this film that the two met –- resulting in the creation of the incomparable Liza! Bonus fact: “Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas” was written for this film.

The Family Stone (2005)
For large families that don’t get together much throughout the year, Christmas is a time to catch up on each other’s lives and fight about all the things they don’t have in common. In The Family Stone a family gets together to celebrate the holidays and there’s plenty of drama to go around. There’s the gay son and his partner who have just announced they’re ready to adopt a child, the oldest son who is unsure if he’s going to propose to his girlfriend who he’s brought home to meet the family, and the mother who is sick but doesn’t really talk about it. All the different personalities make for a chaotic story that reminds us a lot can happen in a year and how important it is to appreciate the holidays.

Scrooge & Marley (2012)
It just wouldn’t be the holidays without a version of A Christmas Carol — and this one takes a gay twist, telling the story of as a miserly piano bar owner who is visited by the usual host of spirits to guide him to altruism.  Its co-writer, Richard Knight Jr., was inspired by The Family Stone, above, to make a gay-centric holiday film — and this is it.

White Christmas (1954)
Starlet Rosemary Clooney stars alongside Bing Crosby and Danny Kaye in this beloved technicolor musical. The light-drag number performed by Crosby and Kaye during the “White Christmas Sisters Reprise” is positively delightful and remains a favorite.

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CMG Marketplace - Part 2

BA-MEN (So Cal)
BA-MEN (Beach Areas Men Enjoying Naturism), a club in Orange County, Long Beach, and nearby, invites all 18+ men! This Dec. we're offering college age guys (to age 30) a present: Get in at half-price with valid photo ID showing age & exact change! Upcoming events include: Our annual NUDE Year's Eve Party (12/31), Holiday Party (12/14), Touch Playshop (12/17).  Events held in O.C./Garden Grove/Santa Ana.  You can find all events on our calendar at: http://BA-MEN.Org. Questions?  Write: And see our newsletter (NSFW!): http://BA-MEN.Org/newsletters/current/.     11/5/19

Cuddle and Massage Wanted (Palm Springs)
I would love to attend the organized  cuddle and massage sessions in Palm Springs. Nothing sounds more fun than enjoying the company of like-minded guys. I am unable to attend based on other commitments.  I was hoping that  by reaching out to others, might help us come together enjoying this activity at a different time, place. I would love to help form a cuddle session and or a massage exchange.  A barrier is that I cannot host, so let’s share a room. Any ideas, comments, thoughts, are greatly appreciated. Contact Rob at     11/6/19

Freshen Your Photo (statewide)
“My grandfather in the 1920s on the top.  Can we bring his world to life?”  Yes!  Folks back then lived in colorful worlds, not b/w!  Do their memory justice with color.  Makes a great holiday gift! Through, longtime CMG member Milo Shapiro saves old pictures, improves current ones, and even removes people/ things from photos.  Examples on his site. Photo in your desk drawer or desktop folder needs fixing? Wish decades old photos looked fresh or had color?  Sun bleaching, water damage, scratches/tears on old shots? Email your photos for a free estimate ( or call (619) 542-0761.     11/3/19

Massage and Yoga (San Francisco)
CMGer and CMT Brian Swager offers serious, therapeutic, healing bodywork with a warm, sensual approach incorporating Swedish, deep tissue, shiatsu, lomi lomi, craniosacral, and Body Electric style tantric techniques. Warm, quiet, clean studio, quality table, Sacred Earth lotion, shower.  Also available for private yoga sessions, naked or clothed.  Additional info:  (415) 551-7866     11/16/19

Men's-Only Nude Yoga Classes (Los Angeles)
Nude Partners Physio Stretching and Ab Workout:  December 7th.  Naked partnering total body musculature stretching.  Abdominal strengthening exercise included.  Nude Yin Yoga:  December 14th. Yin Yoga is composed of asanas that are held longer in order to the stretch the muscles around the joints.  Nude Yoga Basics:  December 21st.  Basic yoga asanas held to create greater heat for detoxing the body.   Nude Total Body Partners Massage:  December 21st.  We begin massaging at the shoulders and work our way down the body.   More info:      11/11/19

Links of Interest

LGBT Social & Recreational Organizations
CMG (California Men's Gatherings)
OUT4FUN (Gay Calendar of Events)
SAGA-LA (Los Angeles Gay Ski & Snowboard Club)
SAGA-SD (San Diego Gay Ski & Snowboard Club)
Great Outdoors
APGF (Asian/Pacific Gays & Friends)
POZabilities (San Diego Social Network)
GLTA (Gay & Lesbian Tennis Association)
IGBO (International Gay Bowling Organization)
IAGSDC (International Association of Gay Square Dance Clubs)
Fun and Games Club
Arriba (Ski & Snowboard Club for Gays & Lesbians)
LA Blades Hockey Club
Gay Outdoors
LANG (Los Angeles Nude Guys)
CMEN (California Men Enjoying Naturism)
BA-MEN (Beach Areas Men Enjoying Naturism - for O.C., Long Beach, & South Bay)
Asian Pacific Islander Pride Council (Facebook Page)
Satrang (South Asian Queers of Southern California)
Black & White Men Together (Southern California)
FaeLA (radical Faeries Los Angeles)
Menstuff Events Calendar
East Bay Network
Men's Massage Network (Los Angeles)
Southern California Gay & Lesbian Club (and Friends!)
Southern California Cycling Group
The Billys

Unusual Attitudes
Jonathan's Circle (Fresno)
(San Francisco)
Gay Elder Circle (Los Angeles)
Fellowship of Older Gays (San Diego)

Community Organizations
Los Angeles LGBT Center
San Francisco LGBT Community Center
Oakland LGBT Community Center
San Diego LGBT Community Center
Sacramento LGBT Center
Palm Springs LGBT Center
Antelope Valley OUTtreach Center
LA LGBT Center Social Services & Housing
AIDS Project LA
Shanti Orange County
Lifeworks Mentoring
Project Angel Food
Project Chicken Soup (Los Angeles County)
Hollywood Sunset Free Clinic
SCA (Sexual Compulsives Anonymous)
L.A. Youth Supportive Services (Teen and Young Adult Hotline)
Southern Oregon Pride
Lotus Rising Project
Pacific Center (Berkeley)
Red Circle Project
One (National Gay and Lesbian Archives)
Pop Luck Club
Trevor Project
L.A. County 211
Mankind Project Los Angeles
Mankind Project San Diego
The Discovery Community (Bay Area)
Gay For Good
Starland Community
HSD (Homeless Shelters)
UCSF Alliance Health Project (San Francisco)
The Lavender Effect
North County LGBTQ Resource Center (Oceanside)
HIV Long-term Survivors

Wildwood Retreat

Political Organizations
Equality California
Human Rights Campaign
Stonewall Democrats (Los Angeles)
Log Cabin Republicans

Miscellaneous Organizations & Listings
Gay Business Directory (LGBT Yellow Pages)
Gay and Lesbian Chamber of Commerce (L.A.)


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